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A Solemn Vow–“Marriage is not like love
that when you fall, you fall”

“With this hand I will lift your sorrows. Your cup will never be empty, for I will be your wine. With this candle, I will light your way into darkness. With this ring, I ask you to be mine”, a line from Corpse Bride.
Marriage is a divine institution and intimate union with the blessing of God. It can also be described as a committed, loving relationship with or without children. It is a promise, a vow, which is not to be broken. It is a gift God gave us for the well being of the entire human family. It is more than a civil contract between a man and woman. It is when the man and woman became one flesh to live faithfully together before god and the Church.
Marriage is created by God for our good. Many people however find it as a puzzling thing. A great number of people craves and wants to get into it while some are desperately trying to get out of it.
Do you want to get married? To be married is still on the top dreams of many and it’s everyone’s dream to be. But dreams can always turn out to be nightmares. If that happens, will you still wish to be married? What if you are sick and dying? Will you still search for the perfect one? What if you can’t give her a perfect life? Will you still wish to be married? Will you marry him if he is jobless? Now, do you still want to? These questions are not to threaten you to stop dreaming about marriage and marrying someone. What I am driving at is that marriage, according to the oldest and most effective definition of it, is not like rice that you’ll swallow and spill if it’s hot. It is not a piece of paper that you’ll sign and if you’re tired of it you’ll crumple or burn it. It is not a simple promise that one can always break. It’s not as simple as “I do’s”. It’s like a problem that you cannot get away from and all you have to do is to face it. It’s a whole life commitment, covenant, promise and vow to God and to your partner.
What is your reason for marriage? Is it to be happy, to have someone to love, to have someone to grow old with, to have someone take care of you, to have someone who can be there for you? Is it when a boy likes girl and the girls likes the boy and the two make a decision to be together forever? Is it? If that’s what you think you’re definitely wrong. Your reason should rather be to make someone happy, to share love with God as the center of your married life, to grow old with someone with God’s guidance, to take care of someone the way you take care of your relationship with God. The reason for marriage is for God to make two saints out of you, and then to raise little saints for God from your children.
“I take thee to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, honor, and cherish, ’til death do us part”.
Marriage is a promise. If you think that you are promising only to your partner, you’re wrong because in the sacrament of matrimony, you’re also promising to God. Your promise to God only ends when you die. It is a solemn vow so you must really think about it before entering its door.
Marriage between a man and wife has many things to fulfill. The wedded couple should make God the center of their married life. They should be the only true love of each other. They should cherish their friendship. They should trust and honor each other. They should laugh and cry together. They should accept the partner’s best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy times. When troubles come they will always be there for each other. They should take their hand to hold and life to keep when the other needs it. Wives should be subordinate to their husbands in everything as the Church is subordinate to God. Husbands should love their wives as God loved the Church. The husband and wife shall become one flesh in the name of the God, the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit.
Marriage is not something we should rush into. It’s is not like love that comes unexpectedly. It’s not like love that when you fall, you fall. Marriage should be planned. Like love it should not be controlled by feelings. It should not do anything and everything it feels and it should be controlled by principles. “You can love everyone but you will vow to God with your only one”. Present to God the one you choose to be with for the rest of your life. For the rest of your life means forever and it’s hard, isn’t it? Yes, that’s why every one of us should take time and truly ask Gods blessing and guidance in choosing the perfect mate.

Love, now and always,


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